Failure is a necessary component of growth. Let yourself fail.
Not all the time. You are not the Nice Guy who crashes and burns without a clue (and does it again and again and again). Don Juans are made by failing, not by succeeding.
When you fail, you have information sent back on things that can be worked on.
Are you too scrawny? Do you not have fun dates? Is your personality the problem? Do you let yourself have fun? Are you scared of sex? What is it?
“But Pook! If I fail, I will lose the girl!”
- For every love that dies, a new one is born. It is a law of Nature!
“But Pook! Why should I intend to fail?”
- The point is not to INTEND to fail. It is to LET yourself fail. If you fail with a girl, IT IS AN OPPORTUNITY THAT YOU MISSED ABOUT YOURSELF.
The Number 2 common mistake here is people thinking that they ARE NOT ALLOWED to fail because of all this ‘information’ they have soaked up. In other words, that if they failed, they really ‘aren’t don juans.
Let me tell you something: They are made OUT THERE. Whatever happens to you out there, no matter how bad it is, come back here and we will help you. You are beyond your Nice Guy days.
But flaws can only be removed by confronting them, never by masking them.
“But Pook! I did what you said and… I had great success! I was hoping I would fail so I could improve but dammit, I succeeded beyond my wildest expectations! I was looking forward to failing so I can improve but the hot chick accepted my advances and dates! How could she do that!?…”
Now you see the point of it all. Even though there are TONS of posts that say ‘not to fear rejection’ or ‘that she is missing out on you’, you still are scared of failing. Failure is actually a GOOD thing since it helps you grow. It is good to IMAGINE success, but do not FEAR failure. Embrace it like the gift it is since it allows you to grow. (For if you don’t fail now, you will fail later on. Get it over with.)
It is a win-win situation.
SO GO OUT THERE AND LET YOURSELF FAIL!
Turning a ‘failure’ with a woman to make it a ‘learning experience’, just one bump along the long road of success, sounds good in seminars and all. But you’ve got to risk, you’ve got to roll your dice.
Nice Guys are nice because they don’t want to fail. Why else do Nice Guys listen to womanly advice? Why else do Nice Guys give chocolate, flowers, poetry, etc. to the woman? They certainly don’t do it out of a spirit of love (though many do, these infatuated chumps). Many do it because they think it is ‘the routine’ and they don’t want to fail. They want to ‘play it safe’.
“May I kiss you?” the Nice Guy asks. He doesn’t want to make her ‘uncomfortable’. If this Nice Guy risked failing, he would just kiss her and go for it. He could be slapped OR she could say, “THANK GOD! I THOUGHT HE WAS GAY!” and all is good.
Some here still act like those Nice Guys with the only difference is that they listen to men instead. You’ve GOT to sprinkle risk in your life.
As Anti-Dump said, you DO want to protect your heart. But some are so scared of failing that they literally COCOON their life!
To the loners- You know who you are. You don’t think you are good enough, have the right things, do the right things, etc. to let a woman into your life. But you do! You loners aim at your comfortable world but do so at sacrificing long term happiness. LET A WOMAN INTO YOUR LIFE! You’ll probably enrich her life more then you think, and she will definitely enrich yours!
To the shy guys- You know who you are. You are worried what others might say, what she might think, what everyone might say. But the truth is that you could walk in front of a bus and you’d be forgotten in a day. No one is going to care that you lusted after a chick. Even chicks forget. GO FOR IT! YIELD TO YOUR DESIRE FOR ONCE!
To the addicted-to-sosuave crowd- You know who you are. You read more and more and more and more and more information. Yet, there you sit in front of your computer. The information you see… it is a novelty, something new for you to think about. But once you go out and FAIL with the ladies, all the information literally changes. Rather then being a novelty to think about, like some new philosophy to adopt, it becomes addendums to your battle plan. You exit the world of THEORY and go OUT THERE (since that is where the chicks are. Only feminists reside in the world of THEORY and you don’t want those anyway).
Alas, the book has created a few new problems. One of them is that guys are scared to fail, especially with all this information around. They think that with this information that they won’t fail. It is fun to fail and is the zeal of life. Let yourself fail!
Only by Failing you can succeed.
Some guys are so scared of failing, that they memorize how they should act and so on whereas I have one thought going through their head: “WHEEEEE!”
Some men see women and cry, “WHY!?” But I approach women and say, “WHY NOT?”...
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